Men are held to such low standards in relationships and it’s infuriating; just today I heard from my co-workers that ones husband never drove to come see her when they were doing long distance, and the other’s hasn’t mowed once in their 30+ years of marriage.
Like we like fun at lesbians moving fast in relationships, but that’s because women are socialized much differently than men, and those traits lead to healthier relationships. Though gender roles are fucking wack in general, you can’t deny that women are raise to be more understanding, expressive, and caring in general. My girlfriend drives 2 hours to come see me every weekend, and my friends boyfriend can barely make the 40 minute trip to come see her.
When women are in relationships with each other, they are more likely to talk about feelings, and go farther for their partners. Women do this in hetero relationships too, but it’s rarely reciprocated if they’re with a cis male.
I read an incredible essay about how gay marriage is incredibly beneficial to straight partners, because straight relationships always have a basis in inequality, due to societal gender divisions. Gay relationships show what it’s like to have a relationship without a gender based power imbalance.
Ladies, if you wouldn’t put up with it from a best friend, don’t let a boyfriend get away with it. Cultivate a society where men in relationships have to at least have basic decency; not only through your partners, but also through how you raise your sons.
I’m shamelessly rebloging myself because I think this is a very important concept that more people need to be introduced too; I hope this gains traction and shows people to think critically about how they are treated.
Yeah he’s not just being a man, he’s taking advantage of the societal idea that he shouldn’t have to do as much as you.
so my plan for halloween is to dress up as a Nazgul with my black horse and go trick or treating but instead of saying “trick or treat” i’ll either scream or hiss “Bagginssssssssss, Shhhhhhhire” and then ransack their villages in my search for the One Ring
Summary: Nigel hears through the grapevine that the deposed Queen Clarisse is searching for her granddaughter, who was presumed dead during the Genovian Civil War.
Author’s notes: behold my slow descent into madness
I got so many of these that my answers are gonna be a little spread out, but here we go!
A- realistic: Alex only stayed in highschool her senior year for Kara. She took every AP and college credit course the school offered, and a few more they didn’t. That was the start of a major focus on her schooling and need to excel that led to the complete burnout a few years later- the one that led to her joining the DEO and finally finishing her degree.
B- unrealistic but hilarious: after calling dibs on her alien gun Alex spent weeks trying to replicate the design (and also adapt it into a rifle version for greater use in the field). Her attempts only stopped when she caused a chemical fire in the DEO labs that required a complete evacuation of three levels. J’onn was a very grumpy space dad for a week, and Maggie banished her to the couch until her hair grew back.
C- heart crushing: Alex hates the color orange now. It used to remind her of watching sunsets with Jeremiah but now it reminds her of Krypton’s sky and the night she nearly lost Kara. The night she took the life of Kara’s last real link to Krypton, the last person she loved that lived under that orange sky. And even though Alex remembers, she can’t share her memories with Kara, not without wanting to throw up.
D- unrealistic but I’ll fight canon on it: Alex wants kids, but she’s utterly terrified of actually having one. What if she’s just like her mother? What if she’s seen too much in the field and can’t be the parent her kid needs? What happens if she’s too hurt to hold a baby? (This one is only unrealistic bc the writers bungled the wanting kids storyline tbh)
It’s been said before, but honestly one of the best feelings in the world is when you unexpectedly read a marvelously written fic and you click on the author’s name in AO3 and discover…more works.
Question of Smoke 