this is a good point – Question of Smoke

randomthingsthatilike123:

do you ever think about how much Kara risks being Lena’s friend?

and i mean kara. not some random stranger, or another human, but very specifically kara. if anyone had reason to want to keep their distance from lena it would be her. it’s not just a general fear of Luthors, it’s lex has tried to kill my cousin on multiple occasions and would have tried to kill me as a kid if he know who i was. this is a very concrete and tangible fear to have. and not just of lena but very much of her family.

like. i’m very gay. and if i had a straight friend who i love and cares about me but maybe does the occasional Straight thing but listens to me when i talk about why what they’re doing is wrong and homophobic and changes their behavior that’s great. but you’ve only known that person for like. a month. and then find out that not only their brother but also their mom and probably their dad as well absolutely hate gay people to the point where they actively plot and actually enact those plans to KILL QUEER PEOPLE AND THE SON IS IN PRISON FOR HOMOPHOBIA and sure I really like my friend and dont think she’d do anything to hurt me and is very nice but you know who her family would probably be like “hm you’re next” @ their victims?

hint hint: it’s gonna be the lesbian who dared talk to their sister/daughter, no matter how at odds they are.

i’m gonna be frank. if i’ve known that person for like. a week or a month. i’m probably gonna be like you’re nice but i think your family might kill me bye. Or at the least, be like hey can we. Maybe. like. Keep to a texting relationship for a little while I love you but your family terrifies me and I want to make sure they are Far Away from me

and still kara’s like nope lena is worth it she deserves a chance and a family and friends she didn’t do anything i’m taking that risk TIME TO SPEND A LOT OF VISIBLE TIME WITH HER AND NOT CARE ABOUT ANY OF THAT. it’s not “oh she’s a luthor, she’s evil” for all of those concerned, making alex and james and winn (especially winn) look like massive assholes for warning kara away–because lena might be evil because she’s a luthor isn’t valid, but lillian and lex might come after you“? is.

they would still have a similar level of tension
but without the gross implication that who you’re related to and your genes determines who you are. By being lena’s friend kara is absolutely painting a target on her back. It is dangerous to be Lena’s friend, because how maddening would it be for lex and lillian to see lena constantly hanging out with supergirl, and go after her because lena is theirs, no matter how at odds they are–or so they might think.

Kara then choosing to be Lena’s family is more than just acknowledging Lena as her own person, but making the same decision when she risked her job to reconcile Cat and her son–”It’s worth it. Family always is.”