Tag: important

decepticonsensual:

cleo4u2:

THIS. I saw a post the other day that literally said if you do it to a fictional character, you’ll do it in real life.

No. Just NO.

I’m so glad someone put it into words.

Lin-Manuel Miranda is a legend, and he’s absolutely right.

And I really feel like there are parts of fandom that don’t get or don’t believe this, and I think that’s troubling.  I’ve seen arguments that people shouldn’t have dark fantasies, or that bad impulses in themselves make a bad person.  I’ve seen so much shaming over thoughts.

And if you get to a point where it’s bad to have dark thoughts and it’s bad to wonder what something would be like and it’s bad to put yourself in the shoes of anyone who isn’t “pure”, if fiction is no longer a realm where you can confront and explore, but an ongoing test of moral purity… well, maybe not everyone’s brain works like mine, but I feel like that takes away something incredibly important to being human.

b-ak3d:

setbabiesonfire:

impala-sonic-deductions:

vivere-est-ars:

every woman on tumblr should have this on their dash

And every man

Look how nobody’s yelling or arguing or making things into a competition. Look how this is to straight up educate people through a different perspective. Look how effective that makes the message.

The last one really hit me. I never really thought about something like that could actually impact a woman’s life. Damn…

gokuma:

defilerwyrm:

got-doctor:

defilerwyrm:

Let people grow.

When I was younger I was very right-wing. I mean…very right-wing. I won’t go into detail, because I’m very deeply ashamed of it, but whatever you’re imagining, it’s probably at least that bad. I’ve taken out a lot of pain on others; I’ve acted in ignorance and waved hate like a flag; I’ve said and did things that hurt a lot of people.

There are artefacts of my past selves online – some of which I’ve locked down and keep around to remind me of my past sins, some of which I’ve scrubbed out, some of which are out of my grasp. If I were ever to become famous, people could find shit on me that would turn your stomach.

But that’s not me anymore. I’ve learned so much in the last ten years. I’ve become more open to seeing things through others’ eyes, and reforged my anger to turn on those who harm others rather than on those who simply want to exist. I’ve learned patience and compassion. I’ve learned how to recognise my privileges and listen to others’ perspectives. I’ve learned to stand up for others, how to hear, how to help, how to correct myself. And I learned some startling shit about myself along the way – with all due irony, some of the things I used to lash out at others for are intrinsic parts of myself.

You wouldn’t know what I am now from what I was then. You wouldn’t know what I was then from what I am now.

It distresses me deeply to think of someone dredging up my dark, awful past and treating me as though that furiously hateful person is still me. It distresses me to see others dredging up the past for anyone who has made efforts to become a better person, out of some sick obsession with proving they’re “problematic.”

Purity culture tells you that once someone says or does something, they can never go back on it. That’s a goddamn lie. While it’s true that some remain unrepentant and never change their ways and continue to harm others, it’s important to allow everyone the chance to learn from their mistakes. Saying something ignorant isn’t murder. Please stop treating it that way. Let people grow.

Still call it out and question it ….

Bruh. No. Listen. Call out what people do now, absolutely. If they haven’t changed, call them out on their record. This post is explicitly not about people who HAVEN’T changed. What this post IS saying is, if someone is making an effort to be a good person, don’t go digging around in their past for evidence that they were once for what they’re now against, or once against what they’re now for, as “proof” of what they “really think,” because people’s opinions and beliefs can change. 

The obsession with finding shit in someone’s past and then claiming that a questionable or even sordid past negates all possibility of a good present needs to become extinct. Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.

If someone has changed for the better, don’t harass them about what they were like before they fuckin’ changed. That’s shitty and it needs to stop.

Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.

THIS

seananmcguire:

lynati:

I don’t think there’s an applause gif big enough to properly convey my reaction to this.

Also, I love that if anyone tries to say that you’re just “another hack fic writer with no ideas of her own who is jealous of the “real” writers out there”, they could quite literally be crushed under your catalog of award-winning original writing as a response. They can’t dismiss your stance on this topic the way they do to so many unpublished / fanfic writers because you’ve already met all of the standards that they insist someone has before they’ll accept their opinion as worth listening to.

Right?

“Well, fanfic authors never win awards, so–”
“WOULD YOU LIKE TO HOLD MY HUGO.”
“That’s basically, it’s, you know, the People’s Choice, so–”
“LOOK AT MY NEBULA.”
“That’s a science fiction award, it doesn’t really–”
“LOOK I’VE WON THE ALEX.”
“…”
“IT’S GIVEN BY THE SAME PEOPLE WHO GIVE THE NEWBURY.”
“…”
“I’M THE FIRST PERSON TO WIN IT TWICE IN A ROW.”
“…well you wrote porn.”
“GOSH I SURE DID.”

catsandmadteaparties:

aviculor:

gh0st-city:

nanyangosaurus:

chubey:

hey guys friendly reminder from your fave Canadian that esk*mo is a slur so please don’t use it!

I see it usually in the context of “esk*mo kisses” which may pop up when people talk about their ships and their headcanon, but it means “snow eaters” in cree and is a slur against Inuit people so please just don’t use it!

and I would appreciate if u reblogged this because people outside Canada don’t seem to know this for the most part

Also if you want to refer to ‘‘eskimo kisses’‘ and not use that term the Inuit term for it is ‘‘kunik’‘. It’s a traditional greeting usually between relatives or a child and an adult, although it’s a little different from nose kisses so most Canadians call it ‘‘Inuit kiss’‘ and I’ve heard other people call it ‘‘bunny kisses’’. Either way there’s no excuse to use ‘‘eskimo’‘ in this context or another.

Friendly reminder from this Canadian cryptid not to be a dickbag and respect native Americans by no referring to them with slurs

I knew it wasn’t the proper term but holy shit that’s what it means!?

I never knew this. I apologise for my use of the word. I am glad I know now!

kaijuuuu:

kenderfriend:

ramazo:

badgyal-k:

batslime:

escarogers:

badgyal-k:

badgyal-k:

badgyal-k:

You have to remind men that they don’t have power over you and you don’t owe them attention, emotional investment, love, time, or consideration just because they like you or because he’s a “nice guy”.

There are a lot of white women relogging this.

You have to remind white people that they don’t have power over you and you don’t owe them attention, emotional investment, free teaching, love, time, or consideration just because they like you/your culture or because they’re an “ally”.

Reblog this too.

I’m reblogging this with a small addition after reading through way too many of the previous comments, some of which were quite aggressive or vitriolic, and some that were genuinely confused and could have needed a kind pointer.

Fellow white people: the second and third part of this post are an addition to the first in that the core idea is the same. If you agree with the first sentiment, -that a woman does not owe a man anything for being “a nice guy”, then a black woman does not owe a white woman anything for being “an ally”. It is meant to have you look at yourself in comparison to other groups, the same way you look at other groups in comparison to yourself. Basically, check your privilege now that you have a chance to see the same aspects of different situations.

I do recommend that you don’t go and read through other comments though, it was quite demotivating. 

Mind if I hop on this to say cis ppl arent entitled to trans ppl’s love, trust, or to know about their body in addition to the previous points

Let them know!!

All of this.

If anyone still has issues understanding this, it’s simple: nobody owes you anything for being a basic decent human being, or if you’re interested in them. And other than the “nice guy” bit it also works for feminism. I’ve seen people ask “Why be an ally if women / black people / transgender people are so angry and I don’t get anything for it?” and the idea is simple, again: because they’re people and deserve respect as people. Attention and favor are nice, but that’s a bonus. The crux of this is that they’re people, and what’s happening to them is not okay. They don’t owe you anything for that.

👆👆👆THIS 👆👆👆

If you are an ally because you want to be praised for being an ally, you’re not actually an ally.