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Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship. 
 
I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone. 
 
But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore. 
 
I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you?
 
It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning. 
 
The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.
 
Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better.

Single serving size // r.i.d (via inkskinned)

unpretty:

idea: selina kyle as a reverse archeologist. she steals from museums and private collections and returns things to the shrines and graves where they belong. she brings a clay jaguar to monte alban and now she can talk to cats. the whip is because she’s indiana jones. batman makes half-assed attempts to stop her but it’s not like she’s wrong so like ¯_(ツ)_/¯ he’s got violent crimes to deal with, what does he care if she’s stealing back smuggled relics from rich assholes. he met that guy at a party once and he was a huge asshole so fuck him. steal his toupee, too. it’s probably endangered. ‘oh no catwoman is escaping and there’s nothing we can do. robin sit back down. there’s nothing we can do. she’s taking that statue back to egypt and we have no possible recourse against this terrible nonviolent crime with a single dick victim. i am definitely really mad about this. i’ll fight her later, when you’re sleeping or at a friend’s house or something. you’ll understand when you’re older.’

melissatreglia:

whatsnew-lgbtq:

Platonic love is real love and shouldnt be treated like less becuase it isnt romantic. Defining love as only romantic is a terrible concept. You should be able to love people in a platonic way as much as romantic way and not be seen as less

The Greeks were so much wiser than us modern folk, when talking about love. They believed it existed in eight different forms:

1. Eros (erotic love). This is, simply put, the sexual attraction you feel towards someone. In its best form, passion can be transformative… but it can also become destructive if not kept under control.

2. Philos (friendship). This is the love we treat as lesser in the modern world. Ironically, the Greeks considered it superior to eros as philos was considered a love between two equals and free of the animalistic pull of sexual desire. Philos is the kind of love two warriors who’ve shared a foxhole feel for one another.

3. Storge (familial love). This is the love and pride we take in our kinsmen and lifelong friends. For those who are deeply attached to their family name, who remember family members who pass on with great fondness… This is the name the Greeks, a culture based very much on accruing honour to one’s name and descendants, bestowed on this form of love, as it was so very important to them.

4. Ludus (playful love). The affection between young lovers, this is what we modern folk call “puppy love.” The flirting, teasing and childlike euphoria at being in a new relationship is all part and parcel of this form of love. The Greeks felt that love should have a sense of fun and play; it need not be serious 100% of the time.

5. Mania (obsessive love). This is what happens when love gets scary, and is the purview of stalkers and the most deluded among us. The Greeks believed that this occurs when there’s an imbalance between the presence of ludus and eros in one’s psyche. Those who experience this form of love also become codependent, and may be perpetrators of abuse of their loved ones.

6. Pragma (enduring love). This is a mature form of love, having aged like fine wine with time. It’s commonly seen in couples who have been married for decades, and is something we all secretly yearn for – the companionship that looks beyond our limitations, yet loves us for our frail humanity. A love where we are accepted unconditionally and will never stray from us. It’s hard to find, and takes a lot of time and patience to cultivate.

7. Philautia (self-love). This is where having a “positive mental attitude” and engaging in self-care comes in. The Greeks understood that, in order to care for others, we must first tend to ourselves. This is not a sense of vanity, but an awareness and acceptance of who you really are, showing yourself compassion in darker times.

8. Agape (brotherhood). This is the greatest form of love there is, and the hardest to aspire to. It demands nothing less than feeling love for all human beings, compassion for all creatures, an acceptance and forgiveness of the flaws of humanity, and the desire to ease the pain of those who suffer. To see in the eyes of every human being your brother, your sister – when humanity, in your mind, becomes your extended family. It’s not about paying lip service to religions that preach compassion, it’s about showing love for others in every word and deed.

So, if you thought romantic love (eros) was all there is to knowing and feeling love? You thought wrong. Let’s learn to love love in all its forms.

karalovesallthegirls:

Anyway I hope Lex knows that in a couple hundred years when people hear the name Luthor they’re gonna think about all the innovations Lena helped bring into the world and that in the history books of tomorrow there will be a four page spread of all her good deeds with a small, barely noticed footnote that has a little known fact about the great alien advocate Lena Luthor’s brother, who was anti alien and even committed an act of terrorism against aliens.

I hope he knows her legacy will outshine his for centuries, despite his best efforts.

supergirl-gen:

oh my god, poor Kara

just wants everyone to get along

talk to me more about how Kara’s “sweet” and “sunny” disposition, as well as her tendency to let her feelings get walked all over, is explicitly tied (in season 1) to her experiences of loss. Talk to me about the psychology of that. ‘Cause I’m skeptical of any review or “fan” who makes a lot of Kara’s “sunny” and “hopeful” exterior, but…

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RedK!Kara mild? That’s a wild assessment, I’m like super curious as to what you would consider extreme (outside of canon-altering murder). Kara’s off-the-deep-end dive into self-proclaimed godhood complete with delusions of grandeur were way darker than and of Clark’s RedK depictions in Smallville or Adventures. She got wonderfully dark and she got there quick

of-suns-and-guns:

And you’re right on that; she was perfectly dark. Unfiltered enough to actually address all that anger and hurt squirreled away, mean enough not to care who her feelings hurt.

Although I am gonna argue the godhood and delusions of grandeur, because, like. Comparatively speaking, she is a god, and her grandeur and ability isn’t delusional; she IS ACTUALLY capable of everything she claims. That’s part of what’s so scary about it. She could literally raze the city to the ground. The only difference is she’s flouting that ability now.

But on that same vein of thought, that’s why I say she’s mild. She’s mild for a Kryptonian.

Imagine Astra or Non altered by RedK. Imagine them crackling with power, with a dozen other just-as-powerful Kryptonians, their heads full of thoughts like, “All it would take is one, well-coordinated attack to upset the human’s power structure long enough to seize control.”

They could punch through the ceiling of a global conference and full-on Ghost Ship a room full of world leaders and diplomats with just their heat-vision. They could destroy the companies ruining the environment by just breaking them apart.

And because they’re human-size and can fly faster than the speed of sound, even last-ditch options like nuclear weapons wouldn’t be effective in stopping them. They could just as easily lure war-ready nations like the US into doing half the work for them, just by tricking smart-bombs into following them to their chosen targets.

The only reason Astra and Non didn’t consider those options before is because there are so many humans on Earth that their best option was to force global compliance, but on RedK, and having just lost his wife, Non wouldn’t have freaking cared anymore. “Just kill em all,” would’ve been his go-to.

Now you compare ability to what Kara did. She acted out. Threw a tantrum. Gave in to, and let free, all those selfish, self-serving thoughts that hit all of us in our worst moments, but that’s all they are; selfish moments.

She was forced to be something she’s not for most of her life on earth, so RedKara made sure everyone who looked at her knew she wasn’t like them.

Her softness has lead people to take advantage of her, so RedKara made people afraid to cross her.

Her actions are all backed up by insecurity, more comparable to what you’d seen in kids and people acting out in mourning, in stress, in fear. Not malice. If they were, she would’ve killed Cat. She would’ve killed Alex.

When she wakes up, she has to ask Alex if she killed anyone. Not because she doesn’t remember, but because, if someone had been killed, it would’ve happened as a result of her not paying attention while having her fun; not because she’d willed their death to be so.

And yeah, as a tv show that doesn’t want to put long-lasting consequences on their character in the middle of a story-arc they hadn’t yet concluded, there were restrictions to what they could and could not have her do, but I also argue that a majority of that restriction exists only because of who her character actually is.

For all her darkness, RedKara didn’t cross lines she had the ability (and possibly drive) to do so. Like that unconscious part of your brain that won’t let you bite through someone’s finger, even though you could. She was dialed back. Too good at her core to be truly evil, even then. Angry, yes. Frustrated and loud, vindictive, even, yes. But for all her power, she doesn’t actually use it. Shows it off, but doesn’t wield it.

Even when she was advancing on Alex with her heat vision, there’s not a single part of me that believes she would’ve done it. There was probably a voice telling her to just do it, but she couldn’t. Didn’t want to. Was angry at Alex, but didn’t do anything with it.

When I say she’s mild, I say that because she didn’t have to be. She could’ve done anything she wanted, and she did do whatever she wanted. She just didn’t want evil things.

No one died. No one was hurt except Alex’s broken arm (which RedKara didn’t even know had happened, and thus wasn’t her strict intention [and also probably was only included because Chyler had an injury at the time]).

So yeah! That’s why I say she’s mild.

paristwists:

soft-santiago:

lindzbizkit:

celestialmoonchild:

Intimacy is beyond kisses and cuddles and sex. Intimacy is getting a headache and taking a nap, and waking up to your laundry folded and your partner rubbing your back. Intimacy is crying and yelling at night about your past to someone who listens and comforts you. Intimacy is watching shows in your pjs for hours and eating pizza together and being able to communicate love through holding hands. It’s never running out of conversation but doing it anyways to enjoy silence.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Intimacy was defined by my health teacher as: Being able to feel vulnerable with someone while still feeling safe.

intimacy, according to my professor of philosophy, is to be able to say “I do not know” without fear of being judged.