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You have to remind men that they don’t have power over you and you don’t owe them attention, emotional investment, love, time, or consideration just because they like you or because he’s a “nice guy”.

There are a lot of white women relogging this.

You have to remind white people that they don’t have power over you and you don’t owe them attention, emotional investment, free teaching, love, time, or consideration just because they like you/your culture or because they’re an “ally”.

Reblog this too.

I’m reblogging this with a small addition after reading through way too many of the previous comments, some of which were quite aggressive or vitriolic, and some that were genuinely confused and could have needed a kind pointer.

Fellow white people: the second and third part of this post are an addition to the first in that the core idea is the same. If you agree with the first sentiment, -that a woman does not owe a man anything for being “a nice guy”, then a black woman does not owe a white woman anything for being “an ally”. It is meant to have you look at yourself in comparison to other groups, the same way you look at other groups in comparison to yourself. Basically, check your privilege now that you have a chance to see the same aspects of different situations.

I do recommend that you don’t go and read through other comments though, it was quite demotivating. 

Mind if I hop on this to say cis ppl arent entitled to trans ppl’s love, trust, or to know about their body in addition to the previous points

Let them know!!

All of this.

If anyone still has issues understanding this, it’s simple: nobody owes you anything for being a basic decent human being, or if you’re interested in them. And other than the “nice guy” bit it also works for feminism. I’ve seen people ask “Why be an ally if women / black people / transgender people are so angry and I don’t get anything for it?” and the idea is simple, again: because they’re people and deserve respect as people. Attention and favor are nice, but that’s a bonus. The crux of this is that they’re people, and what’s happening to them is not okay. They don’t owe you anything for that.

👆👆👆THIS 👆👆👆

If you are an ally because you want to be praised for being an ally, you’re not actually an ally.