every gay girl i’ve spoken to agrees that one of the most humiliating and demoralizing things is having a straight girl thinking you’re coming on to them simply bc you like girls and it….really fucks with our relationships both platonic and romantic bc while other girls get to sit on each others laps and sleep in the same beds and playfully grab each others asses we’re putting up so many walls just in case our straight friends think we’re after them.
and bc our conception of relationships with other girls in general is so fucked and suppressed we have no idea how to navigate our emotions when we’re actually attracted to another girl and want to pursue it
y’all reblogging this with “straight girls/gay guys experience this toooo”….nah, this isn’t about people thinking you want them, its a uniquely stunting experience to gay girls who are excluded from developing friendships and behaving around other girls in the ways we are all socialized to do so because we conceive ourselves/others conceive us as “predatory”
Yes, this!!! In high school I had to change in the bathroom for PE because no one wanted the resident lesbian changing around them. To keep myself from being bullied or to keep the attention off me I didn’t interact with many girls. So I don’t really know how to flirt or anything with girls today. A colleague who used to identify as a lesbian whose older than me is really cocky and talks and flirts with all women. And said I need to flirt more with women. I’m like I can’t do that. I grew up bullied, this has been engrained in me it’s not something I can get over easily. Because my classmates thought that just cuz I was gay I’d come on to them. I was bullied, I had to protect myself somehow. So I really don’t know how to interact with other women.
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